Do you feel like crying? If you have empathy then you perhaps might cry after hearing this very sad story about a young men at Koreas got talent for South Korea. Very sad story… imagine a little five-year old living alone in the streets. This was indeed a smart young man, he didn’t go to school, but did a GED-test and went to high school directly. For the rest of the story, see the film on YouTube below.
Source: youtu.be/tZ46Ot4_lLo
In todays Expressen.se I read about a Swedish women living with a brain tumor that cannot be removed completely due to its location inside the brain. They have however minimized it by radiation. I know a men that has had cancer for as long as I can rember. He always lives with his brain tumor. It cannot be completely removed. But he has lived that way for I do not know, more than 30 years. They have decreased the tumor a number of times. But he has not let the tumor stop him from having a fantastic life and a wonderful career. So reading about this women very much reminds me of this man I know. I admire people that are like that. Not letting the sickness take over their lives. Still planning and living their lives, side by side with cancer.
I also know others that have cancer, they too live their lives side by side with cancer. Some I know that have gotten free from the cancer to. I hope scientists figure out how to kill of all sorts of cancer soon.
Source 20121231:
http://www.expressen.se/halsa/att-leva-med-cancer—pamela-har-en-tumor/
Some people master it with no questions, others don´t master it at all. Some are sometimes mastering the art sometimes, others never can. I however believe that not all can be masters in all groups and I happen to believe its dependent on the background of all the team members.
However the more you experience different personalities and groups the more a person with the skills to master the artform of getting a group to function really well, the better they get. Maybe they cannot master it in the beginning, but then later on they master it more and more.
Then there are different persons that master certain groups perfectly, but they would fail in other groups. Some places need bosses that are unorganized and a little bit mezzy, bosses that give unclear directions. Others need very clear goals. Its very much dependent on what type of persons the group consists of. I can work worth both types I have realized, but I allways need clear goals. Without the goals I lack success. I need the goals. But what bosses I cannot cope are dictators that don´t listen. I thought I couldn´t take a boss that gave remarks in a bad manner and such, but I can, its totally dependent on how and why they do it. I can even take when a boss walks away from me, even screams. As long as it is a discussion. I don´t mind having a difference of oppinion. However this can end up in a hot discussion. I have had experience of boss walking away screaming. It´s okey, as long as they understand my point of view. Often I don´t say something if I do not have good arguments for it. People that listen realize this after the heat of the moment is gone. Usually they come back then and say I am right. If I would be wrong I would say that too of course, but I seldom want to get into arguments if I do not know I am right. If I am uncertain I find out the answer to the question. If I found out that I am right, then I come with arguments, otherwise not.
Well, I am just saying its not easy to be a boss. It´s not easy to allways know right from wrong. It´s not that easy to be stearing a ship and this I know, even if I am not a boss. I think beeing a boss must be very difficult. I do not admire this position at all. I think it´s much easier to do a job and then feel I have completed something. A boss’s job is never completed really. They must allways continue to see that the groups are working and functioning. If boss doesn´t keep the group happy the boat might hit the ground or go under, or both.
I had a meeting in a organisation I am involved with on my spare time. Some cannot take any positivism in that group and get real frustrated on positive persons. Others cannot take that someone has oppinions different from someone else. And some agree with the rebel and others with the conservative members. Tell me it´s not difficult to manage such a group that has differences in personalities. I know it´s difficult, someone needs to stand on neutral ground in such a group. Some get “aggressive” and want to hit their fist in the table. Some get scared about that, but I have seen it so many times and I know the person is just frustrated and has a lot of life disappointment showing outwards. Still I happen to think they are skilled, but however lacking a lot of sensitivity towards others. But I happen to believe there is a reason for why people are a certain way. Often it´s due to reasons in their past and some havent´t really found ways to cope with them. I know I can be annoying, since I allways have an oppinion. I am allways thinking of solutions to allmost anything. When I hear a problem I allways try to find a way to solve it. Beeing this way is also very crutial in my line of work. However many people can have problems with people that want to find a way out, that is in form of a solution. The solution is not that you might be able solve everything, it might be dissolvation also. Sometimes people can agree to disagree. I think it is allright to dissolve and disagree. There isn´t allways unity. After all if there was possible to unite everyone we would only have one country and we don´t. So let´s agree to disagree. Compromise however is a form of a solution. Giving and taking some at the same time. Better to go three steps forward and two backward, at least you get one step ahead.
Sometimes some group members might want to get to the goal at once, however this is not the solution for all teams or team members. Sometimes groups have to force a solution and when something is under time pressure it can give sometimes good or bad compromises. Tuning a group is and artform. Getting the most out of a group is a skill. Some possess it, others do not. Not stepping on toas is a artform, but some people are very tuff and almost cannot be not stepped on. I happen to see many people that I would like to change. But I never try to change them. I know it seldome works. I only give a story instead about something else. Hoping somewhere that my story changes the person inside. By giving the story I am hoping I have started a change.
Beeing in this organisation I know a pessimist and on the last meeting I saw a less pessimistic person. But still very much pessimistic. I however like to think that maybe something has gotten stuck. I hope so. I want the person to be more positive. I am trying to get it secretly to thinking differently, but the person says it doesn´t want to be positive. I think angry mode is a driving force. But I think angry also is destructive if one cannot accept others beeing positive. I think there is some unhealty pessimism in groups. That is when the whole group feels the negativistic side of the pessimistic. I don´t think that is good for the group. I like therefor to make the person less pessimistic without really forcing or so. I just plant ideas in the mind sublime. I think it might have allready started a change based on ideas coming up.
This is just how you effect everyone you meet. Even if they do not like you, they are still effected by you. Therefor I think its dangerous to have just any kind of politics on top. I think the current government is very dangerous. They are spreading false rumours about a bit part of the population by calling them cheaters, lazy and such. The Alliance also sometimes give examples that in my world are discriminating. I think that type of leadership is toxic. I even believe that can start a war. To much of that and groups start to feel a disadvantage.
I belive the top reflects on the population and I don´t think the top is healthy for Sweden at the moment. I wanna see a change for the better. I want solidarism. I want groups to function. And that is by beeing more openminded to people. I know that it´s not easy to be a well functioning group. Especially if you meet firstly with people unknown to you. Then you have no history together. Some groups find themselves in each other directly, but other groups need time to tune in. Some groups automatically tune in if they have a narrow goal in the group and all joiners allready have the same values. In some groups you only talk about the perspective that the group handles. I.e. a bowling club. There they probably talk about bowling as first hand choice. But if its a more complex group its, I am guessing, more often harder to join the group.
Well, groups are complicated and tuning groups also. I consider some having the skill, others beeing less leaders and some non leaders. But I also happen to think tuning of groups is very very important to recieve a good output. There are a lot of ways to tune them. In airplanes they have routines and each one on the plane has a task. They are not needed to be bodies, just do what they are supposted to do. If they do, everything works fine in an emergency and so on. So different ways of tuning is needed for different types of groups.
I could talk about groups for a whole book, but now we are not going to. It´s simply a skill to be able to manage a group. And the group must want to managed. If the assigned leader cannot manage the group the group might not get forward and it also might, it´s totaly dependent on the group and their background. Some groups don´t need leaders, but then it requires really organized people. Some work really well in groups. Oh mine I have seen a lot over the years.
As long as noone gets bullied I can allmost take most groups, but when someone screams its more likely I would think by experience that the group will be affected negatively by it. Some groups however recover from it fast, others maybe be effected so that the group cannot function. Well, it´s not easy and I am guessing each group is unique and they are seldome the same.
The only one you can really manage after all, that is yourself. Some cannot even do that. Can you?
